Now parents, there will always come a time in your adolescent’s life where he will start to move out so he could attend college or even to start his own life. Naturally, this is an emotional time especially for the mom. But there’s no avoiding this scenario. One way or another, we will all definitely go through with it. Even if parents will initially think that they will enjoy the new space they have found, deep inside they are still feeling that loss. Either you now have a home which is too quiet or your phone does not ring that often anymore, whatever it is, change will really affect everyone. There are also a lot of parents which feel neglected and that their grown up child no longer needs them. You may have even felt that your role as your child’s primary supporter has been replaced by his teachers and friends.

However, you must remember that this separation should have made you get ready even when your child was just in High School. And now that your child is moving to college, you will no longer know that much details about your child’s lives. Even if you feel that you are losing control over him, you simply have to accept that fact. It is simply normal. But even if you are miles away from your child, you should always remember that there will be times when your child will need you. Because of this, you have to trust him that he or she will make the right decisions and when he or she has done wrong, you are ready to accept him or her still.

As a parent, the way you can handle this big transition is to help out your child. Even if you have been used to taking control over planning the details of the future of your child, now is the best time to stop doing that. You have to let them make their own decisions and move. With regards to their move, you have to support them and encourage them that they should list down the things which they will need. This list should include important dates for registration and the move-in days. Also, they should enlist the things they need for their new dorm room. But, you should leave this actual planning to them. Just let them know that you will be around and ready to give them a hand.

You should also give advises to your young adult without making it sound like you are pushing him to follow you. The best way this is done is to ask him some questions without having any prior judgment. Try your best to have an open mind and if you strongly disagree with their decision made, you should offer an alternative without pushing it to hard on them.

After your child has moved out, you should allow time for yourself to adjust. Since throughout the years you had a child, that time was spent caring for them. And now that they are finally out on their own, you must redirect that care back to yourself. Before the day comes when your child moves out of your home, you can already make a list of things which you would want to do, learn and even follow. This is the best time to be good to your own self.